Filling a Blank Page

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Happy New Year! 

If you happened to read my last post, you’ll know Christmas was difficult. I found out afterwards that we lost not one, but two beautiful souls on Christmas eve. I am very thankful for a boyfriend who kept my head on straight at this time. It would be easy to allow the tragedy of loss to continue to affect me and bring me down. It is harder to choose joy, to choose to direct my focus to the silver linings.

There is an infinite amount of possibility in this world. To learn, to grow, to expand your mind and your life. I know so many people are annoyed with #newyearnewyou, or the commercialism attached to self-improvement targeted at January resolution makers. And I don’t believe you need a new year to make changes in your life. However, I like to see each year that rolls in as another opportunity for exploration and recreation. It’s a blank page, it’s a fresh slate, it’s another chance and we’re still around to seize it and make the life we want and be people that are kind and passionate and awesome. You can choose to see it this way or not.

This is what has filled the first moments of my blank page, 2015.

(photo cred to Mauricio Rojas Gramal)
10906180_10152562114751485_6611097625260861927_nAt the bar… we missed the countdown due to somebody falling asleep (most definitely not me)…. but we came for a drink and new years hugs at work before last call. (photo cred to Mauricio Rojas Gramal)

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Great crew to be working with on New Years! Nobody came in for dinner in my section, I didn’t serve a single beer! It was fun regardless getting ready for the party and sitting around talking with these wonderful people. 1484289_10152461247922554_6013748579192249050_n

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We’re gross. (photo cred to Patrick Lizotte)10917903_10152464212997554_3573233975682388871_n

What happens on Skype stays on skype is most definitely stored for embarrassment on my blog or your wedding day slideshow. My sister back home is the best medicine.

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Today I’m happy. Christmas and the days following held a lot of sadness and grief, but the wind is changing. Today I felt ready to plan and dream again. I’m proud of who I am and where I’m at and anticipating wonderful adventures in 2015. This is my content, confident, nothing’s perfect but everything is alright face.

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Happy New Years everyone!

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Lucky you, Murphy

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In this cold, cold tundra (though today I was informed, “it’s only chilly, wait until winter…”) every bit of colour and positivity counts. I have yet to encounter a blizzard, a long power-out, or the days with 20 hours of darkness, but it won’t be long. I’m working to forge friendships and build personal strength that will get me through the winter.

In my last post featuring positive graffiti, I featured a local artist and someone (unknown) who had changed F*** the police to Hug the police. I found some more today on a photo walk that made me smile and that I wanted to share with you.

Murphy’s law is something that you come to expect and anticipate here. Staff shortages, unpredictable weather, losing your internet if the wind is too strong or it rains. I really like the graffiti I found that says “Lucky you Murphy” because Murphy’s law never leaves you feeling lucky. Things go wrong up here, and you just have to deal with it and keep going. I hope you enjoy these pictures and that you remember that you can get through whatever is going on in your life right now.

If you are clever, you can probably see what the word graffiti used to say before it was changed to something more positive.

“I wish you didn’t have to fly away”

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“Shucks, you’re #1”

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“Lucky you, Murphy”

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“Cook’n peachy” – on a second glance, I realized this probably says “Look’n peachy” … guess I had food on the brain.

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“<3”

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“you kno you luff it”

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Choosing Love

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One of the biggest questions people try to answer is this: How can I be happy? 

My answer is this: do what excites you. Pursue your passions. Choose self-love and make time and space in your life for the things you love. 

Place yourself in the situations where you will get to practice your art (whatever it may be), spend time with the people you cherish, and surround yourself with individuals you admire and who make you better. 

Here are some of the things I love to do. 

I love to be behind the camera to capture every moment around me, so that in the future I can look back on happy times and places I have explored. 

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I love to make art. Drawing mainly, but any form is fun for me. 

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I love to eat healthfully and make my food aesthetically pleasing and Instagram it all. (@jessihannahjay

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I love to make music. Piano, guitar, singing, writing… This was on Main St. in Vancouver. 

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What would you do more of if you had the time? What activity or group of people makes you feel alive? What can you cut out to make room for what you love? 

The more you envision the life you desire, the more you practice things you like in every small choice throughout the day, the closer you will get to a life you love. 

 

♪ MJ: Stop Everything You’re Doin Now & Smile – MOD SUN ♪

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Midweek Jam for y’all!

“if you could only see right now
that you got all you need right now and smile”

Mod Sun’s “hippy hop” music is really jiving with my bones right now. MissMeghanMakeup did a great video on Positivity last July. This video pointed me to research the law of attraction and Mod Sun’s book “Did I Ever Wake Up?” I ordered the book and read it in a day and it did change my outlook.

I’m in the process of making some positive changes in my life. Taking control, taking charge of my mood and attitude. There are so many things that can bring us down. I don’t want that anymore. I am really excited about changing my life for the better and putting myself as a priority, taking care of myself physically and emotionally.

In the past couple days Meghan made another video about positivity. I watched The Secret after that, a documentary kind presentation of the book titled the same about the law of attraction. I did read Mod Sun’s book, but I didn’t really listen to much of his music, so that’s what I’ve started doing and I thought I would share one with you. I wouldn’t say it’s all young-ear-friendly (swear words and weed culture and such)… but I quite enjoy the sounds and the vibes. Seems like he’s got a great attitude as a performer and is really down to earth and relatable in his book.

 

✮ MM: Let a bad mood fuel a great day✮

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Welcome to another Monday Motivation post!

A lesson I have learned over an over again is this: when I am in a bad mood, or feel sorry for myself, the quickest way for me to snap out of that poor attitude is to do something for someone else. When you shift your focus away from yourself, away from self-pity and the accompanying feelings of entitlement to happiness and fairness in life, you realize you are in control of your own happiness. This week’s challenge is to:

LET A BAD MOOD (OR A ROUGH MORNING) FUEL A GREAT DAY.

Let hard feelings fuel productivity. Often when I am upset I find cooking/cleaning and good deed doing very therapeutic. Whether you only have time for a small or silly gesture that will cheer someone else up, or you can tackle a larger project– getting up off your butt will help. I promise! I’ve made a video version of my list, so you can read or watch or both!

Here are my top 5 ways to turn a bad day into a good one, and shift your attitude away from negativity.

1. Do something for someone else. 

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After a grumpy morning, I decided to make soup for my boyfriend and I for dinner. The process of cooking throughout the day and cleaning up after myself took my mind off of the negative thoughts I had when I got up in the morning. It gave me an opportunity to show appreciation and love to someone I care greatly for instead of remaining in the self-centred mindset I began the day with.

2. Eat something nutritious and drink enough water. 

I am a firm believer that if you eat crap, you will feel like crap. I know I do. I’m not anti-junk food, I definitely indulge in things that I know are full of awful ingredients… but if you are struggling with regulating your mood, food is definitely a great way to start the balancing process.

If you feel distracted/hyper/irritable/anxious… get some root vegetables into you (potatoes, radishes, onions, turnips, peanuts, carrots, beets, garlic). These are grounding foods and can help you feel calmer and balanced.

If you feel depressed/stuck/down/unhappy/lethargic… get some fruit into you. Apples, grapes, oranges, and bananas are my top picks. Fresh fruit juice (that you press yourself) is also a great option for a quick pick-me-up.

Water is obviously mentioned a lot in the health community… people say “Stay hydrated!” What does that mean? What does water really do? Every water particle has an oxygen atom. So on top of acting as an internal cleanser, lubricant, and toxin eliminator, water carries oxygen to your brain and your whole body. It helps everything function better and helps you to feel better.

3. Tidy or deep clean something. 

Any activity which keeps your hands busy is beneficial when trying to overcome a bad mood.

Think of your bad attitude as a habit you are trying to kick. Smokers need to keep busy and often take up new hobbies to replace the time and find new things for their hands to do apart from holding a cigarette. Furthermore, the attention to detail required when tidying and cleaning will definitely distract you from your bad mood. At the end of it, you’ll also have gotten something done, and that will give you a boost in mood, having accomplished something you may have been putting off or dreading.

4. Do something for yourself. 

Before writing this blog post, I put on a dress and did my makeup. Do I have anywhere to go tonight? Nope. But it makes me feel good to get gussied up. I’m listening to Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince on audiobook. I ate toast with Nutella (remember it’s okay to indulge sometimes) on it. Now I’m writing, which I find very therapeutic.

All these small things which make me feel good, add up to a change in attitude. I don’t need the approval of others to feel good. If you know yourself, you know what you like and what will cheer yourself up. Why wait for someone to do it for you? Be proactive and do those little things that make you happy. Paint your nails, doodle on an envelope, take a bath with candles, put on some perfume, go for a hike, take yourself out for coffee, read a good book, call up a friend, watch some stand-up. Whatever YOU find enjoyable, do it.

Know that you are in control of your own happiness. It isn’t anyone else’s job in the world to make you happy. (You could argue that it is, indeed, a comedian’s job to make you happy… but I think you get my point)

5. Appreciate nature. 

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Look outside. What do you see? Trees? The ocean? Mountains? Fields? The sky? A busy street? Snow? Rain? Sun?

Whatever is out there, it may help to remember that there is so much out there beyond yourself. So much beauty, pain, struggle and victory beyond what you experience each day. I in no way wish to discredit your pain or what you are going through… this is more for those who know they are just feeling stuck or struggling with self-defeating attitudes or self-pity.

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The main point I am trying to make in this post is to see the bigger picture. Remember that there are millions of other people in the world. Those who are better off and worse off than you. Realize that today will end, and tomorrow will come. Think about what is lovely, what has inspired you, who has been there for you… rather than what is going wrong. Sometimes you have to face your problems and sometimes the problem is you and you need to work really hard to change your own attitude and habits in order to grow. It isn’t easy, but it is possible!

PS. Check out THIS amazing story of a girl who chose happiness instead of giving up.

✮ Monday Motivation ✮

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Welcome! Monday Motivation will be one of my weekly features! This week’s challenge:

TRY SOMETHING NEW. 

^Sorry about chopping the top of my head off, and also my bird squawking in the background!

A new food, an activity, talk to a stranger, take a different way home from work, part your hair in a different place, wear a little less (or a little more) makeup, have your waiter/waitress surprise you with your order. When you switch things up, you may find a new favourite, see something unexpected or make a new friend. Who knows!

If you’re still stuck, give this recipe a try! I came up with it last week and I love it. I call it Spiky Lemonade. I find the flavour really nice and more complex than just a simple lemonade, and so much more healthy! No added sugar or chemicals. Apple=sweet, ginger=spicy, celery=salty, lemon=sour… It’s so refreshing! I hope you will give it a try (even if you can’t find cactus to add, it would still be good without it– just add another apple and celery stalk).

You’ll need:

-1 apple (or up to 3, if you prefer a sweeter taste)

-2″ chunk of ginger

-2 stalks of celery

-3 lemons

-1 Nopal cactus leaf (see the health benefits of cactus here)

After processing the apple, ginger, celery and cactus in a juicer (I like to use a glass citrus juicer for the lemons) pour the juice into a blender over ice and blend! This is such a refreshing drink, and I find juicing is a great way to sneak in some foods that I don’t normally get in my diet.

Let me know if you give this recipe a try or if you have a cool idea for something new to try this week!

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