✮ MM: Let a bad mood fuel a great day✮

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Welcome to another Monday Motivation post!

A lesson I have learned over an over again is this: when I am in a bad mood, or feel sorry for myself, the quickest way for me to snap out of that poor attitude is to do something for someone else. When you shift your focus away from yourself, away from self-pity and the accompanying feelings of entitlement to happiness and fairness in life, you realize you are in control of your own happiness. This week’s challenge is to:


Let hard feelings fuel productivity. Often when I am upset I find cooking/cleaning and good deed doing very therapeutic. Whether you only have time for a small or silly gesture that will cheer someone else up, or you can tackle a larger project– getting up off your butt will help. I promise! I’ve made a video version of my list, so you can read or watch or both!

Here are my top 5 ways to turn a bad day into a good one, and shift your attitude away from negativity.

1. Do something for someone else. 


After a grumpy morning, I decided to make soup for my boyfriend and I for dinner. The process of cooking throughout the day and cleaning up after myself took my mind off of the negative thoughts I had when I got up in the morning. It gave me an opportunity to show appreciation and love to someone I care greatly for instead of remaining in the self-centred mindset I began the day with.

2. Eat something nutritious and drink enough water. 

I am a firm believer that if you eat crap, you will feel like crap. I know I do. I’m not anti-junk food, I definitely indulge in things that I know are full of awful ingredients… but if you are struggling with regulating your mood, food is definitely a great way to start the balancing process.

If you feel distracted/hyper/irritable/anxious… get some root vegetables into you (potatoes, radishes, onions, turnips, peanuts, carrots, beets, garlic). These are grounding foods and can help you feel calmer and balanced.

If you feel depressed/stuck/down/unhappy/lethargic… get some fruit into you. Apples, grapes, oranges, and bananas are my top picks. Fresh fruit juice (that you press yourself) is also a great option for a quick pick-me-up.

Water is obviously mentioned a lot in the health community… people say “Stay hydrated!” What does that mean? What does water really do? Every water particle has an oxygen atom. So on top of acting as an internal cleanser, lubricant, and toxin eliminator, water carries oxygen to your brain and your whole body. It helps everything function better and helps you to feel better.

3. Tidy or deep clean something. 

Any activity which keeps your hands busy is beneficial when trying to overcome a bad mood.

Think of your bad attitude as a habit you are trying to kick. Smokers need to keep busy and often take up new hobbies to replace the time and find new things for their hands to do apart from holding a cigarette. Furthermore, the attention to detail required when tidying and cleaning will definitely distract you from your bad mood. At the end of it, you’ll also have gotten something done, and that will give you a boost in mood, having accomplished something you may have been putting off or dreading.

4. Do something for yourself. 

Before writing this blog post, I put on a dress and did my makeup. Do I have anywhere to go tonight? Nope. But it makes me feel good to get gussied up. I’m listening to Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince on audiobook. I ate toast with Nutella (remember it’s okay to indulge sometimes) on it. Now I’m writing, which I find very therapeutic.

All these small things which make me feel good, add up to a change in attitude. I don’t need the approval of others to feel good. If you know yourself, you know what you like and what will cheer yourself up. Why wait for someone to do it for you? Be proactive and do those little things that make you happy. Paint your nails, doodle on an envelope, take a bath with candles, put on some perfume, go for a hike, take yourself out for coffee, read a good book, call up a friend, watch some stand-up. Whatever YOU find enjoyable, do it.

Know that you are in control of your own happiness. It isn’t anyone else’s job in the world to make you happy. (You could argue that it is, indeed, a comedian’s job to make you happy… but I think you get my point)

5. Appreciate nature. 


Look outside. What do you see? Trees? The ocean? Mountains? Fields? The sky? A busy street? Snow? Rain? Sun?

Whatever is out there, it may help to remember that there is so much out there beyond yourself. So much beauty, pain, struggle and victory beyond what you experience each day. I in no way wish to discredit your pain or what you are going through… this is more for those who know they are just feeling stuck or struggling with self-defeating attitudes or self-pity.

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The main point I am trying to make in this post is to see the bigger picture. Remember that there are millions of other people in the world. Those who are better off and worse off than you. Realize that today will end, and tomorrow will come. Think about what is lovely, what has inspired you, who has been there for you… rather than what is going wrong. Sometimes you have to face your problems and sometimes the problem is you and you need to work really hard to change your own attitude and habits in order to grow. It isn’t easy, but it is possible!

PS. Check out THIS amazing story of a girl who chose happiness instead of giving up.

Moving Past Insecurities With Truth


Dear Beautiful-Strong-Intelligent-People-Who-Don’t-Know-They-Are-Such,

This will be the third and final installment in the line of introduction posts. I believe it’s the most important concept in pursuing what you love. Fears and insecurities can be fed to the point where they can no longer be controlled and they affect every area of your life. That doesn’t need to be the case. However, without the awareness of your weaknesses, they can undermine your strengths and cause you to act in ways that are inconsistent with the true you.

Maybe you know what you want. Maybe you can picture the type of person you’d like to be. But there are negative internal and external factors that hold you back from being that person, from doing what you love. This is an important starting point– for me, and anyone seeking change in their life, and seeking to pursue a life of purpose, love, and joy.

Internal factors:

1. Insecurites caused by past experiences (X happened in the past, so it will happen again or words that were said to you or about you)

2. Fear (What if X happens? What if I fail?)

3. Lies (I am not good enough, I don’t deserve to succeed, I am not smart enough)

External Factors:

1. Fallible humans (Everyone makes mistakes, not everyone has your best interest at heart)

2. Circumstancial (pressures to do things that aren’t in line with your values, situations with temptations)

What are the factors that hold you back? Or make you act out of character?

I allowed these negative factors to decide my fate for me at one point. I have learned that it is up to me to tap into the positive factors(which I will describe later as truths), and take responsibility for my actions and for my life.

Examining whether you have an internal or external locus of control(whether you look inward to explain why something happened, or whether you seek to blame some factor out of your control) can help. There will always be things out of our control, but I believe that with the right self-reflection and awareness, that you can be and act in a way that is consistent with your beliefs and calling as a person.

My boyfriend, reminded me of the Serenity prayer:

“God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.”

Reinhold Niebuhr

He also sent me this quote:

Beautiful People

I believe this wholeheartedly. With struggle, with mistakes, with pain comes change, conviction, wake-up calls. I believe that strength can emerge from defeat.

Pursuing your passions, building loving relationships, being who you are called to be… they all require confidence. They all require a boldness of heart and certainty of truth. If you believe the lies that I discussed earlier(You aren’t good enough), it’s like going into battle with a broken sword. You’ve lost before you’ve begun. However, just as there are negative internal and external factors, there are posisitive ones too. Those are what you need to draw upon. Depending on your insecurities, fears, beliefs, and experiences, your list of positive truths will vary. These are some of the truths that I have learned and that I remind myself of when things get tough:


1. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” (Philippians 4:13)

2. I am beautiful, loved, loving, loyal, cherished, not alone, smart, funny, responsible, capable and kind.

3. No matter what I have done in the past, or what has been done to me in the past, the above remains true.


1. I have a supportive boyfriend and a loving family who will always be there for me.

2. There is no need to pursue things that don’t interest me, in order to impress other people.

3. People are too worried about themselves to really care about what I wear, how I look, what I choose to pursue as a career, etc.

What truths can you tell yourself today?

The pieces of your past have created the you of today. That can be a good or bad thing. How will you let those experiences shape you? How will you use your past pain to fuel the success of your future?

Let’s take responsibility for the people we are in this moment, and that we will become. Let’s love fully, be true to ourselves and stomp out insecurities. They don’t deserve to live.

-jessi hannah jay.

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