Imagine, Work, Enjoy.

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Don’t we all have some neatly folded fantasies in a hidden drawer somewhere? There are dreams like skinny jeans that we keep working towards, we keep trying them on.

If you are of the persuasion that what you put in is what you get out… If you believe in the law of attraction… If you could fathom that we manifest our own lives through our thought life… then you may realize how important it is to dream. To spend real time and energy focusing in on the specifics of desires and aims in life. How they will feel, taste and smell.

How clearly can you see what you want? 

What future reward drives your present work? 

A few months ago, I made a collage of four pictures of things I wanted, along with the goals that I needed to achieve in order to splurge on these rewards. Last week, I hit the first of the four. I reached 200 followers between my two blogs. (THANK YOU!) For this, I’m treating myself to a tie dye hoodie from the Mod Sun merch store. It’s a happy, colourful purchase to remind me of positivity and perseverance that pays off.

It’s a small thing, but it illustrates a clear desire , followed by the work to achieve it. There are other- more significant- rewards.

The feeling of waking up refreshed and energized after you start taking care of your health.

The pride that swells in your chest when you take another step towards your dream job.

The sound of the steel lock clicking as you open the door to your first home.

The taste of a lovingly prepared meal.

The simple contentment of being in the company of good friends who took a long time to find. 

These are all examples of things that you imagine, work to create and then enjoy.

Imagine. Work. Enjoy. 

What can your mind come up with? What outcome inspires you to wake up in the morning and get to work? Are you enjoying the process of your progress towards your dreams? 

If you are interested in learning more about manifesting what you want through visualization and action, pick up Mod Sun’s book “Did I Ever Wake Up?” or watch “The Secret.” Both are resources that I’ve used on more than one occasion and thoroughly enjoyed.

Lucky you, Murphy

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In this cold, cold tundra (though today I was informed, “it’s only chilly, wait until winter…”) every bit of colour and positivity counts. I have yet to encounter a blizzard, a long power-out, or the days with 20 hours of darkness, but it won’t be long. I’m working to forge friendships and build personal strength that will get me through the winter.

In my last post featuring positive graffiti, I featured a local artist and someone (unknown) who had changed F*** the police to Hug the police. I found some more today on a photo walk that made me smile and that I wanted to share with you.

Murphy’s law is something that you come to expect and anticipate here. Staff shortages, unpredictable weather, losing your internet if the wind is too strong or it rains. I really like the graffiti I found that says “Lucky you Murphy” because Murphy’s law never leaves you feeling lucky. Things go wrong up here, and you just have to deal with it and keep going. I hope you enjoy these pictures and that you remember that you can get through whatever is going on in your life right now.

If you are clever, you can probably see what the word graffiti used to say before it was changed to something more positive.

“I wish you didn’t have to fly away”

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“Shucks, you’re #1”

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“Lucky you, Murphy”

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“Cook’n peachy” – on a second glance, I realized this probably says “Look’n peachy” … guess I had food on the brain.

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“<3”

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“you kno you luff it”

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Positive Change Manifesto

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I wrote this manifesto as a reminder of how I want to live. 

My past includes a lot of negative self-talk, self-depreciation and lies I told myself. Negative thought patterns with words like can’t, ugly, stupid, never, and impossible.

Positive self-talk and affirmation is something I have been forming into a habit, day by day. I’ve slowly erased these words from my lexicon. I rarely use them, or let the people around me use them. It bugs me so much when someone I care about puts themselves down. 

Even though this is my own manifesto, I hope you will read through it, and find it resonates with you. I hope that you choose to believe that you are beautiful and important and capable. 

Maybe it will even prompt you to write your own manifesto of positive thoughts and affirmations. 

Check out Gala Darling’s radical self love manifesto for more ideas! She’s brilliant. 

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♪ MJ: Stop Everything You’re Doin Now & Smile – MOD SUN ♪

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Midweek Jam for y’all!

“if you could only see right now
that you got all you need right now and smile”

Mod Sun’s “hippy hop” music is really jiving with my bones right now. MissMeghanMakeup did a great video on Positivity last July. This video pointed me to research the law of attraction and Mod Sun’s book “Did I Ever Wake Up?” I ordered the book and read it in a day and it did change my outlook.

I’m in the process of making some positive changes in my life. Taking control, taking charge of my mood and attitude. There are so many things that can bring us down. I don’t want that anymore. I am really excited about changing my life for the better and putting myself as a priority, taking care of myself physically and emotionally.

In the past couple days Meghan made another video about positivity. I watched The Secret after that, a documentary kind presentation of the book titled the same about the law of attraction. I did read Mod Sun’s book, but I didn’t really listen to much of his music, so that’s what I’ve started doing and I thought I would share one with you. I wouldn’t say it’s all young-ear-friendly (swear words and weed culture and such)… but I quite enjoy the sounds and the vibes. Seems like he’s got a great attitude as a performer and is really down to earth and relatable in his book.

 

✮ MM: Let a bad mood fuel a great day✮

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Welcome to another Monday Motivation post!

A lesson I have learned over an over again is this: when I am in a bad mood, or feel sorry for myself, the quickest way for me to snap out of that poor attitude is to do something for someone else. When you shift your focus away from yourself, away from self-pity and the accompanying feelings of entitlement to happiness and fairness in life, you realize you are in control of your own happiness. This week’s challenge is to:

LET A BAD MOOD (OR A ROUGH MORNING) FUEL A GREAT DAY.

Let hard feelings fuel productivity. Often when I am upset I find cooking/cleaning and good deed doing very therapeutic. Whether you only have time for a small or silly gesture that will cheer someone else up, or you can tackle a larger project– getting up off your butt will help. I promise! I’ve made a video version of my list, so you can read or watch or both!

Here are my top 5 ways to turn a bad day into a good one, and shift your attitude away from negativity.

1. Do something for someone else. 

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After a grumpy morning, I decided to make soup for my boyfriend and I for dinner. The process of cooking throughout the day and cleaning up after myself took my mind off of the negative thoughts I had when I got up in the morning. It gave me an opportunity to show appreciation and love to someone I care greatly for instead of remaining in the self-centred mindset I began the day with.

2. Eat something nutritious and drink enough water. 

I am a firm believer that if you eat crap, you will feel like crap. I know I do. I’m not anti-junk food, I definitely indulge in things that I know are full of awful ingredients… but if you are struggling with regulating your mood, food is definitely a great way to start the balancing process.

If you feel distracted/hyper/irritable/anxious… get some root vegetables into you (potatoes, radishes, onions, turnips, peanuts, carrots, beets, garlic). These are grounding foods and can help you feel calmer and balanced.

If you feel depressed/stuck/down/unhappy/lethargic… get some fruit into you. Apples, grapes, oranges, and bananas are my top picks. Fresh fruit juice (that you press yourself) is also a great option for a quick pick-me-up.

Water is obviously mentioned a lot in the health community… people say “Stay hydrated!” What does that mean? What does water really do? Every water particle has an oxygen atom. So on top of acting as an internal cleanser, lubricant, and toxin eliminator, water carries oxygen to your brain and your whole body. It helps everything function better and helps you to feel better.

3. Tidy or deep clean something. 

Any activity which keeps your hands busy is beneficial when trying to overcome a bad mood.

Think of your bad attitude as a habit you are trying to kick. Smokers need to keep busy and often take up new hobbies to replace the time and find new things for their hands to do apart from holding a cigarette. Furthermore, the attention to detail required when tidying and cleaning will definitely distract you from your bad mood. At the end of it, you’ll also have gotten something done, and that will give you a boost in mood, having accomplished something you may have been putting off or dreading.

4. Do something for yourself. 

Before writing this blog post, I put on a dress and did my makeup. Do I have anywhere to go tonight? Nope. But it makes me feel good to get gussied up. I’m listening to Harry Potter and the Half-Blood Prince on audiobook. I ate toast with Nutella (remember it’s okay to indulge sometimes) on it. Now I’m writing, which I find very therapeutic.

All these small things which make me feel good, add up to a change in attitude. I don’t need the approval of others to feel good. If you know yourself, you know what you like and what will cheer yourself up. Why wait for someone to do it for you? Be proactive and do those little things that make you happy. Paint your nails, doodle on an envelope, take a bath with candles, put on some perfume, go for a hike, take yourself out for coffee, read a good book, call up a friend, watch some stand-up. Whatever YOU find enjoyable, do it.

Know that you are in control of your own happiness. It isn’t anyone else’s job in the world to make you happy. (You could argue that it is, indeed, a comedian’s job to make you happy… but I think you get my point)

5. Appreciate nature. 

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Look outside. What do you see? Trees? The ocean? Mountains? Fields? The sky? A busy street? Snow? Rain? Sun?

Whatever is out there, it may help to remember that there is so much out there beyond yourself. So much beauty, pain, struggle and victory beyond what you experience each day. I in no way wish to discredit your pain or what you are going through… this is more for those who know they are just feeling stuck or struggling with self-defeating attitudes or self-pity.

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The main point I am trying to make in this post is to see the bigger picture. Remember that there are millions of other people in the world. Those who are better off and worse off than you. Realize that today will end, and tomorrow will come. Think about what is lovely, what has inspired you, who has been there for you… rather than what is going wrong. Sometimes you have to face your problems and sometimes the problem is you and you need to work really hard to change your own attitude and habits in order to grow. It isn’t easy, but it is possible!

PS. Check out THIS amazing story of a girl who chose happiness instead of giving up.

✮ MM: Find a Focus ✮

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This week’s motivation was inspired by an infographic that Anna Akana mentioned in her latest video. I had heard the data before, but it was a great reminder. The number might seem overwhelming, but it’s also motivating and helpful to know exactly how much work it takes to become a master or an expert (the best of the best) in any given field/industry. It takes 10,000 hours. In light of this number, the challenge this week is to:

FIND A FOCUS.

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No matter what you want to do, if you put in that amount of deliberate practice, you will be an expert. Even if you know nothing about it now. This is especially powerful if you are around 20(or younger). Imagine being the best in the world at something by the time you are 30. Just putting in 20 hours a week, you can become the very best in under 10 years. If you want to chase your dream more aggressively, putting in 40 hours a week will get it done in less than 5.

If you can find a focus and start working towards becoming the best, imagine what you could accomplish! You may change your plans/ reroute along the way, but starting along the path is the most important thing. Just like saving up money early on can have a huge snowball effect with interest, so do all the hours of work that you clock pay off.

Here are a few of my ideas to get started once you’ve found a focus:

  • CREATE A SYLLABUS: Maybe you’re already going to school for what you want to get good at. Regardless of whether you are or not, you can create your own syllabus for learning. Do some research and create a document for yourself listing the best books, teaching tools, teachers/coaches/experts, and free resources(online podcasts/tutorials/e-courses) available to you. You can make up your own projects, goals, desired learning outcomes and due dates and just start plugging away!
  • SCHEDULE: This is one I definitely need to work on. You can use the 10,000 hours as a long term goal, but that’s an overwhelming number to face each morning. Break it down and make time in your day for your practice. More frequent, shorter chunks are more effective normally than longer, infrequent chunks of time (though it depends on what you’re practicing). If you don’t commit to a time and plan ahead, excuses and reasons to flake out on yourself will inevitably come up.
  • CREATE A VISION BOARD: I’ve made a post about this before, but a vision board is such a fun and useful thing to do for goal setting… It’s like Pinterest in real life (you could just use Pinterest, but I like a physical copy for my wall).
  • SURROUND YOURSELF WITH POSITIVITY: Yes, everyone at the top met opposition along the way. That is not to say you must suffer more than necessary along your journey. Find like-minded individuals who share in your vision, who support you in your goals, who will tell you to keep going when you run out of steam. These are the people you want with you when you achieve your goals. People who had patience with you, were honest with you, who believed in everything you have worked towards.
  • BE INSPIRED: When you’re excited about what you’re working on it’s easy to forget or shut out what’s going on in the real world. Don’t become so isolated that you miss out on the changes and news in your industry/area of interest. Allow yourself to not only observe others who are doing things that you’d like to do, but be inspired by them, engage with their work, discuss it, seek it out actively, critique it.